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May 5th, 2017
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“Why Do We Need Unisex Bathrooms?”

A guy asked this about a convention where several boy/girl bathrooms were temporarily repurposed into unisex bathrooms. (Not all of them – you could still find your standard male/female pooping places if you were uncomfortable.)

And I’ve been thinking about that question. “Why do we need unisex bathrooms?”

Because the answer is blazingly simple if you’ve attended Penguicon: look around that convention’s room parties, and you’ll see a fair number of genderqueer and trans and cross-dressing attendees. Some of them go to conventions specifically to have a weekend where they can relax and present as whatever gender they choose and not get hassled about it.

Going to the bathroom and deciding which box to check is, presumably, a buzzkill for these people on an otherwise-supportive weekend. Hence the unisex bathrooms.

But that’s not the question the guy was asking.

He used “we,” but he meant “he.” As in, “Why do I need a unisex bathroom?” And being a cis dude who dresses like a dude, he didn’t see any need for them. As such, he concluded the convention was doing stupid things for stupid reasons.

Which was a stupid conclusion, alas.

Because this addled man’s affected with a sad disease that can strike at anyone, but tends to afflict straight cis men: They have forgotten the difference between “we” and “me.”

I personally don’t need unisex bathrooms either. But when I ask the question, “Why do we need unisex bathrooms?”, I am capable of looking around to more than my experience and doing the elementary deduction work required to uncover why. Sometimes I even ask other people than myself and the people who look like me.

Why do we need unisex bathrooms? Because not everyone’s you, dude. I have never once attended a panel discussing gun safety or libertarian philosophy, but if someone asked me the question, “Why do we need those panels?” you bet your bippie I’d pull my head out of my neon-rimmed ass and look around to other people before answering the question.

Solipsism’s a helluva drug.

Cross-posted from Ferrett's Real Blog.

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From:Penn Davies
Date:May 5th, 2017 07:51 pm (UTC)
Why do we need single-sex bathrooms? It seems inefficient.
Date:May 6th, 2017 04:33 am (UTC)
This, too.

Date:May 6th, 2017 04:32 am (UTC)
You're correct about the general problem of forgetting/ignoring/deliberately eliminating those who are different from oneself. But I think there's something else going on here besides that. After all, the guy didn't ask (and probably wouldn't think to ask) why we need ladies' rooms, in spite of the fact that he gets no direct benefit from them. So it's only certain types of people other than himself that he's ignoring.

Also, I want to say that, as a general matter, I think people benefit from the existence of things that they don't directly use, and that thinking otherwise is shortsighted. By which I mean that things which benefit others are valuable not only because you empathize with those other people, but also because you benefit indirectly from living in a world where their needs are met.

Date:May 6th, 2017 01:29 pm (UTC)
Everyone on this earth has used unisex bathrooms. That's what we use when we are at home. So nobody has problems with them. Somehow you found the only person on earth who was raised in a convention center or perhaps an airport instead of an ordinary home. That's news.

Edited at 2017-05-06 01:30 pm (UTC)
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Date:May 6th, 2017 05:46 pm (UTC)
I asume that some people contrive to segregate their homes, although I don't know anyone who does.
Date:May 6th, 2017 05:57 pm (UTC)
ok well that's just weird
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