Also, "people have all sorts of different reactions to life-changing trauma" misses another edge case, that not every rape *is* life-changing trauma.

I had explicitly said no to sexual activity, woke up to sexual activity happening to me, so definitely rape [though it was female-on-male so many jurisdictions might disagree], but it was not life-changing trauma. I didn't report it to anyone because it seems like not a big deal, reporting would be more trouble than it would be worth, etc.

I feel very slightly bad about that, in that maybe it would happen again to someone who *would* be traumatized in a similar situation, but given that it wasn't violent or damaging in any way, and required a specific set of circumstances that could totally reasonably be considered a misunderstanding (the lesson I took from it is "don't share a bed with anyone you don't intend to have sexual relations with"), it seems reasonably unlikely that it would be a recurring issue.

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