I had a very good upbringing, but I still think of myself as the kind of person who could get raped; I had thought, until I started reading the comments here, that it was a fundamental part of growing up female that one had so much 'rape awareness', self-defense classes, don't-go-out-after-dark training, exposure to figures of one in X women are sexually assaulted over their lifetime, that whenever one walked down a darkened street alone or accepted a lift or an invitation home from someone (particularly someone male) there was always that underlying thought of 'is this it? is this my rape?'.

I suppose there's a difference in that most of the taught scenarios are the much rarer stranger-rape scenarios, so someone could reasonably be going through life expecting that to happen to them one day, but also not believe that the thing that did happen to them was rape because they didn't _say_ no / he probably hadn't heard them / he apologised afterwards...

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