Shut Up And Take It, You Wonderful Person You|
So over on Fetlife, there was a fascinating discussion of “forced adoration” that went like this:
“Instead of a bottom being restrained and being humiliated and abused, why not try some forced adoration? Totally different type of experience: being restrained, while friends and members of the community take turns writing kind things, compliments, comments, affirmations, hopes, all over your body.”
A friend of mine, who is notably neurotic about accepting kindness, said “I think this would be a hard limit for me. I feel horrible just thinking about it happening to me.” Many others followed, saying that being forced to endure compliments and kindness would be unthinkable for them.
That made me sad, but it also made me think. How awful is it in our society that so many of feel guilty and sick about hearing the things people love about us? Learning to accept compliments is, I think, vital for happiness and health.
So I’m spontaneously declaring today National Accept-the-Niceness Day. Anyone posting in the comments of this entry may be complimented, for no reason whatsoever, by anyone who knows good things about them. Anyone posting in the comments of this entry are encouraged to say something wonderful about someone else, in the hopes that the subject of their niceness will see this.
And anyone complimented in these threads cannot deny the compliment. Today, here, you must own the fact that you have made someone happy enough that they feel the urge to gush about you. This is not them doing it out of obligation, for who the hell needs to post in a thread on some dude’s blog? This is not them being lured into an illusion of your wonderfulness – if you’re reading it, drop your impostor syndrome for a moment. Open yourself to the idea that what they’re happy about is actually real.
Anyone reading this is welcome to steal the idea for their own. And then post a variation on their blog.
Cross-posted from Ferrett's Real Blog.
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