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except that minors do not have a right to privacy. As a parent, if my child gives me cause to violate that privacy, I will do so without hesitation. Because there are many cases if you respect the privacy, then you don't know if your kid is in trouble and can't and or won't help them when they need it.
It's a balancing act on a rope.
|Date:||February 20th, 2012 10:37 pm (UTC)|| |
I agree it's a balancing act. I would likely monitor certain discussions, to make sure there aren't any real problems. But if someone whines to their friends? I think even admitting that you are aware of that is a violation of the boundaries of a normal parent-child relationship. Putting it on the Internet for all the world to see is just horrid.
Minors should be given rights by their parents, though I agree that the parents can take those rights away. But parents should realize that their actions will cause reactions. And if your child knows he or she has no privacy, the child will simply learn to hide things better. Instead, maybe establish honest communication, which is more likely to lead to you finding out that your kid is in trouble, so you can help them.
Which is easy to say, when your not in that dynamic, completely different when your in the dynamic with your child.
Relationships are hard, no matter who they are with and we aren't always so reasonable.