Why Satisfying Is Not Often Smart - The Watchtower of Destruction: The Ferrett's Journal
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I dunno. I think it's really bad parenting, but I don't know that the chance is significant. Then again, I haven't had too much experience with southern dads like this.
|Date:||February 13th, 2012 05:13 pm (UTC)|| |
You must have friends who are social workers, and who work with at-risk families. Get their opinion of what this means.
|Date:||February 13th, 2012 05:16 pm (UTC)|| |
Also, I find it significant that, on MY friends list, everyone who came from an abusive household is having flashbacks at this video, and it's not generally being posted without trigger warnings.
|Date:||February 13th, 2012 05:59 pm (UTC)|| |
Exactly. Growing up in a household with a "parent" like this, you can see it for exactly what it is. *shudder*
|Date:||February 14th, 2012 04:28 pm (UTC)|| |
|Date:||February 13th, 2012 10:43 pm (UTC)|| |
Yup. My father destroyed my stuff when he got mad. He also hit me when he got mad.
I covered crime in New Jersey for 10 years and let me tell you t his is exactly the kind of shit that happens to children a year or two before the parent snaps and does something really, really bad.
What sucks is that you can't really take the kid out of the situation, in general, if they won't testify against dad. Though, in this case, given that dad videotaped the thing it might be a different story (back when I was covering crime it would have been impossible to upload this to the Internet.)
I guess it sets off warning bells for me just on a personal level because of my experience growing up.
Once when I was about 15 my step mom found my a bunch of Penthouse magazines hidden between my mattress and box springs (Yes, I had no imagination at all about hiding stuff) and then made me take them out into the yard and pour gasoline and set them on fire while she yelled at me about what a dirty pervert I was.
Then she beat the shit out of me (not for the first or last time.)
My step mom, of course, told all her friends about finding the porn and making me burn it, but for some reason didn't mention the punches to my kidneys when she was telling the story (and holy fuck I wasn't going to bring it up as I sat there in a huge shame spiral.)
If I had been 15 in 2012 I could easily see my step mom finding my porn history and making me burn my computer (since, you know, what teens look at magazine porn anymore.)
It just seems too much like the behavior abusive parents show the world before and after the real abuse happens in private.