I agree, and I think this is true for monogamy as well. I get certain things from George -- for me, I get the romantic partner stuff from him, and the Share-our-lives things from himm, too. But I don't get intellectual discussion, gaming, karaoke singing, unbridled excitement about going back to school, innocent flirting that won't ever go anywhere, discussion about my family of origin with someone who has lived it with me, or any interest in the reality shows I like. :P

Okay, so I get those things from friends and family. But if I expected George to start meeting those needs for me as well (when I'm perfectly happy getting them met by family and friends), well what you said above.

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(And what I forgot to say specifically is that you can have NRE in a non-romantic way...I can have NRE for a friendship or new activity or whatever, and even those thing can make me notice the things about George that I don't get.) (And really don't need from him, but it's hard to remember that sometimes.)

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Knowing people who want their SO to be the One Size Fits All in their lives, I agree that it's a serious problem.

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